I saw a photograph on social media last night that made me feel quite sad. It was a baby being massaged whilst staring at a phone screen during a live streamed online class. I’m not judging because this parent thought they were doing the right thing. But I thought I’d take this opportunity to explain my thoughts on online Baby Massage and Baby Yoga classes.
During baby massage or baby yoga, you and your baby should be interacting with each other and neither one of you should be looking at a phone. One of the keystones of all my classes is the positive interaction between baby and parent and this stems from my International Association of Infant Massage training. I talk about this all the time in my classes – non-verbal communication between parent and child is at the very centre of everything I teach. I read a scary statistic recently that suggested we touch our phones more often than we touch our children. I am not going to add to this by giving you another reason to look at your phone rather than your baby.
In my classes, parents look at their babies – and I look at the parents! I see love. I see bonds strengthen. I see confidence grow. I see worries disappear. Please don’t let a screen disrupt this.
“Touch them with your hands, your eyes and your heart”
Vimala McClure, founder of the International Association of Infant Massage
Aside from this, babies are supposed to feel relaxed after Baby Massage or Baby Yoga. We adults are beginning to realise the negative impact our screens have on our mental health and the evidence suggests that screen time for babies is just as bad. Imagine having a facial whilst scrolling Facebook, or practising yoga whilst sending a few emails? Have you ever quickly updated your Instagram stories whilst in the bath and then wondered why those lavender oils and candles didn’t help you relax (no, me neither!)? We’ve all experienced the frustration of trying to hold a conversation with someone who is looking at their phone.
I think we are going to need all the oxytocin we can get over the coming weeks and with limited contact with others, all that positive nurturing touch that our children need is coming from us, their parents. Never have these interactions between baby and parent been so important.
The IAIM has adapted the Baby Massage Programme especially for online teaching. I’ve run a number of successful Refresher sessions and will soon be looking at whether I’m able to teach baby massage online, whilst addressing all of the concerns I’ve outlined above. Birthlight Baby Yoga is easy to adapt for online teaching but will be more challenging for me to teach remotely – watch this space whilst I work out if I can manage it! I will be sharing some very simple ideas for story massage for children and babies on my Facebook pages and The Rainbow Massage is a 3 week course of story massage classes that is proving very popular.
And now that you’ve finished reading this, pop down your phone, look at your baby and ask them if they’d like a massage or to practice some baby yoga – or even just a great big cuddle!